Gratitude in the Dark Spaces

Let us give thanks for our shadows for they are there in the first place because of the presence of light. — Kamand Kojouri   Thanksgiving is a time for reflecting on the bounty of our lives, the gifts of friendships, health, opportunity. We are not as...

It’s Not About Them

We encourage our kids to focus on their effort more than the outcome when it comes to their grades, athletic competitions, learning a new skill. But when it comes to our own parenting, we often equate our “success” with how closely our children’s behavior matches our...

Secret Shame: Male Survivors of Sexual Assault

Since the FBI redefined its definitions of sexual assault nearly 10 year ago, the data on male victims of sexual assault has exploded, with some researchers suggesting men are victims of sexual crimes nearly as often as women. Taking into account childhood sexual...

Holding Out Hope

“There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that is our real disaster.” -- His Holiness, the Dalai Lama The shocking violence of the most...

The Gift of Our Flaws

If you throw out your neurosis, you throw out your wisdom. -- Pema Chodron As a therapist, I help clients learn how to silence their inner critics, to climb out of the pit of depression, to develop coping skills to manage panic attacks. And I truly do​ ​meet clients...

New Perspective on Self-Care

Being evacuated from the path of a hurricane gave me a new perspective on the priority of my self-care. As a lifelong Midwesterner, I never thought I'd hear, “We are in the direct path of the hurricane.” The closest I'd been to a devastating weather event was watching...

Grandma’s Medicine

Grandma’s Medicine

Grandma's Medicine   A recent Washington Post article detailed a mental health initiative in Zimbabwe that utilizes “community grandmothers” -- lay health workers trained in counseling skills, problem solving and self-care -- to help provide vital mental health...

No Fear

No Fear

Any belief that generates fear or feelings of unworthiness is false; it's a lie...Our authentic self would never abuse us; it comes from love. --Don Miguel Ruiz Freedom comes with realizing that our fear is not real. ​Our fear is created by the beliefs and thoughts we...

Flawsome

Flawsome

My teachers have all come with the same message. Not “I am holier than thou,” but “You are as holy as I am.” -- Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God Even if we can resist the pursuit of perfection, most of us find ourselves striving to be better than we...

Lost and Found

Lost and Found

Sometimes what we appear to have lost is simply something it was time to leave behind. -- Marianne Williamson I cried tears of joy on my son’s graduation day. But I was also overwhelmed with sadness, a deep grieving for the end of the long chapter of my son’s...