Don’t Play Whack-A-Mole! Address the Addictive Mindset

By: Scott Stolarick, LCPC, Gurnee Program Director “You can do whatever you put your mind to.” We have all heard that saying over the years. What about doing what your mind puts you up to? As a clinician working with the issue of addiction for many years, I have found...

Achieving Empathy: The Deep Dive

By: Scott Stolarick, LCPC, Program Director Gurnee Most people are familiar with snorkeling and scuba diving, either through direct participation, interest or general knowledge.  These are two examples I utilize to help clients differentiate between sympathy and...

Speaking from the Sacred Self

The pain you feel on behalf of people you’ve never met? That is your divinity. – K.C. Wilder News reports, social media and conversations around the office water cooler have focused on the seemingly endless examples of non-civil discourse in our communities and...

Just Hang On

Much has been written over the past few weeks in response to the suicides of celebrities Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. Words of sorrow, confusion, and even judgement have attempted to make sense of the harrowing choice that some people make to end their lives, and...

Unlearning Helplessness

Learned helplessness​ occurs when an individual feels helpless in the presence of negative stimuli, has accepted that he has lost control and thus gives up trying to change the situation. We’ve all thrown up our hands at times when faced with a seemingly...